Imperfect Happiness

So what is it really that we look for in a person when looking for a life partner? As crazy as it sounds I believe that as we're looking for a someone to share our life with we do not look for a perfect person but rather an imperfect person who fits perfectly with who we are and what we want from or out of life. We look for a person who is either imperfect in the same ways we are or who is imperfect in different ways. In finding someone who is imperfect in the same ways you find also someone who can relate to you because you've shared similar experiences, this imperfect person makes you feel understood. Someone who is imperfect in different ways than you allows you both to draw on the strengths of the other; thus balancing each other out. It's a matter of what's most important to you and what works best for you. We all have different needs and wants in life and so for each one of us what we look for is a little different, however, all in all most of us want the same things. To be happy. To have someone love us unconditionally. To be respected and appreciated. To find someone who we can relate to and who helps to balance our life. Too often though as we search for happiness we forget that in life nothing is perfect and no one can be happy all the time. We sometimes forget the "worse" in for better or worse because as one thing meets our expectations we are already looking for better, looking for more. And in chasing happiness often we are never satisfied. The thing about happiness is that no one is happy one hundred percent of the time and you can't make others happy all the time either. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in trying to please the people we love that we forget about our own happiness and overlook the fact that in trying to make them happy we have made ourselves miserable. This isn't healthy nor is it fair to you or your partner. Even in making the other person happy you are hurting the relationship if you are neglecting yourself because if you aren't happy it will show and it will have a bad affect on your relationship. In making changes to try and please each other there has to be balance and compromise in order for it to work. The idea is not to change for the other person but to change with the other person. My point is that relationships are not happy all the time. There are periods of growth which will likely hurt like hell but that's when true commitment and love will carry you through.